Luminaluna wrote: Hi, I know this probably seems like a rhetorical question, but how do you get past the hurt of a betrayal, the terrible discovery that the person has been lying to you for a long time, that the person is unwilling to stop the hurtful behavior, even after you confronted him/her, even if you begged (literally) that person to stop? I guess what I'm asking is whether or not you try to stay in the relationship or decide it can not go forward, either way, that pain won't go away. I am a pragmatist, maybe too much of one, but I don't want to just think and talk, I want to do, and by do, I mean something positive, not to immediately get rid of the pain but to life without it chocking you. I have started weekly counseling and the first session really helped and I plan to continue for awhile, no matter what happens. If anyone has been in this kind of situation, and has any words of advice/experience about what else helps the pain of a betrayal like this, I would love to read. Thank you!
Hello, and sorry for this situation causing so much pain for you. How about a little exercise in
"re-Focusing" Don't focus on getting past the hurt of betrayal,you are human and it will hurt, instead focus only on your reaction or response to this distraction,will you minimize how much of yourself you will give to this. Will you continue to respond with your valuable emotional strength, or will you look at it as an unfortunate experience, but not let it rob you of your importance and value, you're strong
enough to begin again, you have much to give, now you have additional experience, that has expanded your horizons......go to it, you have not been defeated, just a little deflated!!!
Thanks for listening, I pray for the best for you.....Have a great future, Belloftheball