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[Evolving]

I am on a couple of dating sites. Many men say they are looking for a honest caring person. Yet, when it comes down to it they are looking for so much more than just that... Appears to be looking for many other things, including a certain look/fitness level/financial level.

I am wondering why not just say that up front?  I enjoy it when someone is forthright about what they are looking for. What do you think?    

[ewallywood]

I think that a lot of that if people post what they are really looking for then they would scare off many so they just dont want to mention that part at the begining of thier started relashionship  with someone even if it is only conversation,another reason is they dont feel the same way you do as to honesty right from the start.

[wolfie13]

hi, well my friend, some people really are looking for honesty first and formost, as honesty comes in many shapes and ways, truthfulness, being my main thing in anything or anyone, and if i seek honesty/truthfulness, then i have to possess the same yeah?, I personally cannot say what i am really looking for on dating sites, as i dont know what im looking for, just an honest FRIEND to get to know, and who knows where things may or may not go from there... so i just give honesty as my main thing.
hope i didnt confuse anyone (as much as this confused me!! ) lol.
Take care for now
Keep Smilin'
Wolfie. xx.

[starkitkat]

I am on a couple of dating sites. Many men say they are looking for a honest caring person. Yet, when it comes down to it they are looking for so much more than just that... Appears to be looking for many other things, including a certain look/fitness level/financial level.

I am wondering why not just say that up front?  I enjoy it when someone is forthright about what they are looking for. What do you think?    

To me they are "Players"

[feelingthirty]

I am on a couple of dating sites. Many men say they are looking for a honest caring person. Yet, when it comes down to it they are looking for so much more than just that... Appears to be looking for many other things, including a certain look/fitness level/financial level.

I am wondering why not just say that up front?  I enjoy it when someone is forthright about what they are looking for. What do you think?    

It seems to me that people say what they think others want them to say (complete bull s--t ) in my eyes , what makes it worse is that when things go tits up because both parties are singing from different hymm sheets they wonder why .
Im not going to lie and say that a flabby 50 something year old looks as good as a pert 30yr old but the reality is that we all at some point in life have to except that we are not as fit as we once were.
Most on this site are either divorced or seperated and looking for excitement in one form or another so why do they all kid thereselves into thinking that they are such a good catch when they couldnt make previous relationships work .
At a guess i would say that 50% on here are looking to find a little bit of youth , Excitement , thrills , good sex but i could be wrong and undoubtably will be told so by all the do gooders .

My advise to all is stretch your legs and enjoy yourself , be seductive , be tentative , be alive as its no dress rehearsal .
ENJOY LIFE WHILE YOU STILL CAN best of luck

[Graham1]

Its a good point Evolving as its often hard to ascertain how honest others are being about themselves and what they are looking for. I agree that some people are superficial and dont really look at the person behind the profile and face. It can take time to find out what others really want; sometimes they dont really know what they want! The chatroom is a good place to get to know people better and most of the regular chatters are friendly and welcoming.

[WowYou]

I am on a couple of dating sites. Many men say they are looking for a honest caring person. Yet, when it comes down to it they are looking for so much more than just that... Appears to be looking for many other things, including a certain look/fitness level/financial level.

I am wondering why not just say that up front?  I enjoy it when someone is forthright about what they are looking for. What do you think?    

I'm new on dating sites and I agree this comment, from what I've seen so far. Perhaps some people are reluctant to say what they really want for fear of generating no interest in themselves. I was upfront with what I'm looking for and the response hasn't been very good. But, at least when I do receive a contact we will both hopefully be closer to a good match.

[robonurse92]

I am on a couple of dating sites. Many men say they are looking for a honest caring person. Yet, when it comes down to it they are looking for so much more than just that... Appears to be looking for many other things, including a certain look/fitness level/financial level.

I am wondering why not just say that up front?  I enjoy it when someone is forthright about what they are looking for. What do you think?    

It seems to me that people say what they think others want them to say (complete bull s--t ) in my eyes , what makes it worse is that when things go tits up because both parties are singing from different hymm sheets they wonder why .
Im not going to lie and say that a flabby 50 something year old looks as good as a pert 30yr old but the reality is that we all at some point in life have to except that we are not as fit as we once were.
Most on this site are either divorced or seperated and looking for excitement in one form or another so why do they all kid thereselves into thinking that they are such a good catch when they couldnt make previous relationships work .
At a guess i would say that 50% on here are looking to find a little bit of youth , Excitement , thrills , good sex but i could be wrong and undoubtably will be told so by all the do gooders .

My advise to all is stretch your legs and enjoy yourself , be seductive , be tentative , be alive as its no dress rehearsal .
ENJOY LIFE WHILE YOU STILL CAN best of luck

That was an awesome response. Personally, I am not looking for youth. My youth sucked. I am looking for a guy that can get in touch with his feelings. I while know many a woman that complains about that not happening in their relationships I think sometimes an old dog can learn new tricks from a new master (or mistress). Sometimes, I think people do learn new ways to commmunicate but there is so much crap in old relationships you get stuck. Too many hurt feelings.

[magbe60]

Hey, I joined this site more as an avenue to meet people and chat to like minded folks. Hopefully to make friendships with people. Do you have to be looking for a date when you come on sites like this? Can you not just chat, get to know people, then if things develop good and well.