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[onelegpete]

Why is it so hard for disabled men like myself to date and find women who will
go out with a person with a amputation as i have this and i find that it scares a
lot of women off why?

[Guest]

Disability can be a stumbling block or a block wall; Those who can not except someone with a disability; are they really worth being with; I think not. As one person effected by a disability ; not one that can be seen, but , a disability just the same! I refuse to let my disability become a brick wall. I have found that people I have met so far accept me as I am. At least mu friends do; and I have become to expect the same from others I meet. Becca

[Guest]

I think becca38 is right. It is all about acceptance. As someone who has recently become disabled, I can sympathise with onelegpete too! My disability is obvious to all and it is some times difficult for strangers to see past it. I think if they can only see the disability and not the person...then they ain't worth knowing!

[jacir]

Sometimes in life we are given new challenges!! I myself became sick in my late 20s with something that is killing my muscles....not all people can handle a person whom has some limitations and that is ok! as do we really want to be with someone who does not love us for whom we are!!! and not what we are!!

I have dated alot and one day met a wonderfull man on a chat site, we dated for 6 years and now have been married for 5 years.

Someone is waiting for your love!! it will happen.

Jaci

[ArdeshirMehta]

I don't think it's because of your disability. My late wife, to whom I was married for 25 years, was severely disabled, even when we met - and towards the end of her life she could not even use her hands - but I married her anyway because she was the most wonderful woman I had ever met in my (then) 42 years of life. If I had to do it all over again, I would do it in a heartbeat. (I had known - in the Biblical sense - lots of non-disabled women before I met her, some of them very beautiful, physically. But what a serious partner sees in you as a mate has, in my experience, little to do with your physical appearance.)

[SueBay]

Hi Pete,

I have had a longterm relationship with someone that had severe scolliosis of over 70 degrees, as well as fused and missing ribs.

His disability was very visible and it affected him in many ways. He was sometimes judged on his appearance rather than himself by people, but do you know what? Those people lost out.

He was a wonderful person and enriched the lives of everyone that knew him.

If you meet the right person, she will accept you for you, accept the imprtant part of you, your personality.

I wish you every luck Pete.

Sue x

[Jarvida]

Hmm, this is food for thought. I have a disability which doesnt show, but affects how much I can do.
If someone cant love and want to be with you for who you are, then you wont be happy with them.
Thats what Im discovering anyway. Sad but true.

[Elenbee]

Why is it so hard for disabled men like myself to date and find women who will
go out with a person with a amputation as i have this and i find that it scares a
lot of women off why?

|||||||||I agree but it can be discouraging.  Bute you have to sell the sizzle and not the steak.  After all, you arer still you!  And you have a brain and lots of knowledge that can benefit tose ladies.
Last but not lease, if she is so shallow to let that get in the way she would not have been a true friend anyway.  Just after you for your money.  So broom her,
look for somme one who is enlightened 

[starkitkat]

Many of us have a disability that they are not aware of, fear is one disablity that they have, some can't face that challenge themselves. Fear is a phobia of a mental disabilty and can be very challenging and there are many types of phobia now a days that are recognize today. I too have one and it is an invisable one, but hey, I don't allow it to put me down. So if someone can't see me for who I am, then they are not worth it.

So don't allow people challenge you or put you out because you have a disablity, soon they will have one themselves somewhere along their life span.

As the saying goes, you will find someone when lease expected.